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Club Fantasys Rant and The Threesome Effect Yeah, I don't want to write anything, but I should. The Club Fantasys dance so wasn't worth it. I should've made us stay home because it was such a waste of money. They held it at a motel in Warren with a tiny hotel bar in it. The area for the actual party was about the size of our single wide trailor with music BLARING the entire time. Not a good way to meet people. On top of that, everyone was SUPER cliquey. A good example of this occured early in the evening. Once again, I start dancing and someone joins the floor. She dances near me, smiles, then this other woman grabs her elbow and pulls her to the other side of the room, making sure she didn't face me. Yeah. I don't need that catty bullshit. The one couple we talked to that night made a beeline exit right after I asked the Mister to confirm if she was bi or not. I guess my overly sexual interest repelled him, or reminded him that he'd be making a poor trade that evening giving up his hardbody wife for a girl with a belly. Whatever the case, I wish women wouldn't fake friendliness. It just confuses and hurts me in the long run. Civil is good, but don't be complimenting me when you know your man would rather be getting a better piece of ass. Damn Stepford Wives. Oh, and the $50 room rate was a little overpriced. I guess someone had it out for us at the hotel because our room was flooded. We got up in the middle of the night to find water soaking from down the hall to the foot of our bed. It was squishy and smelly. I wondered when we got there why the room was so musty smelling. I now had an explanation. I got the feeling its one of those damn Patel owned hotels in the area. Cheap bastards. FIX YOUR PIPES! Dumbasses. Sorry I'm so irate today. I'm just sexually frustrated these days. Work is stressing me out beyond belief. I have no idea what I'm doing wrong, but I continue to have the paranoid feeling that I MUST be doing wrong. I want sex, but I also don't want to bother with it. I hate making arrangements to screw. I'd perfer hot spontenaeity if I could get it, but I'm too chickenshit to just walk up to random dudes and ask them if they'd want a blowjob. (Or random women for that matter, and that's REALLY what I want!) I guess I just want some excitement. With all the work I've been doing on various projects and sales, swinging has just become another chore. Its kind of like a hobby, but one I can never really take a break from. Not that I have any idea what I'd do on such a break. I'll admit it, there's nothing I can think of that would replace swinging in terms of time and commitment to a hobby, except maybe reading. Still, I'm getting really discouraged with our consistent lack of results in swinging. The amount of time and money we put into this would probably yield a medium level of expertise in many other subjects. Hell, I could probably windsurf by now! I know it isn't always a waste of time, but lately we haven't even gotten to the couple to couple meeting stage. We've emailed a lot of people, but hear nothing unless one or other isn't up to snuff. Of course, they don't say that outright (usually) but you can tell. And, yes, sometimes I wonder if we would do better apart. Hell, I know Dan still gets invites I don't want go on, so its not just me. I guess we're just a bad combination. Doesn't make sense to me, but it never did. Then again, I tend to go for tall, slim, and hung. Its just me :) I just wish there was something I could do to make this work. The only thing coming to mind is to lose the weight. Just like porn, men want skinny chicks. Men in couples especially because if they're giving up their wife they probably feel entitled to a woman of similar hotness/quality. Anything less is pointless, isn't it fellas? I mean, why go screw a cow when you've got a fox at home? Threesomes, however, have their own rules. I've decided to informally term this the "threesome effect". Faced with the highly unavailible option of a threesome, men will drop SOME of their more stringent attractiveness requirements. This may be due to their not having to "trade" their wife away. Hence, they will still have the most attractive woman in the room, and the woman who will be the most responsive to him because he'll know her lovemaking patterns. Thus, he's a stud both ways and not threatened with a loss of masculinity. The second woman doubly reinforces his masculinity because she wants him enough to share her time with his primary partner. She won't get his best performance because he has to split it between them, but she wants him badly enough to take any sloppy seconds or thirds. The wife falls in the same boat, but she's a "good" woman because she can share. The less attractive other woman doesn't threaten her relationship with her husband or her self esteem. She also knows that when the other woman leaves she'll have more and better sex with her man, in addition to enjoying his performance more because he knows her body better. So, in short, people looking for single women tend to be less rigorous about body type than those looking for couples, and that's my general theory on it. I know it will probably sound heavily lesbian tomorrow, but it makes sense right now. Frankly, I just want to get laid. I just hate making plans. So surprise me. Invite me somewhere :) Daphne |