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Sex Workers? How Depressing...even the Dirty Show is happier than this! Can a sex worker art show be depressing? Poor kids, it can, and last night's was. I am glad that they are touring and giving a voice to things but I think that they might be giving it the wrong voice. I LIKE sex work. If I didn't, I wouldn't be doing it. These women, however, did not like sex work and despised their clients. Several read pieces that described how they hated men and couldn't stand them outside of work, and barely within it! None really seemed to take joy in their jobs and I kept wondering why they kept going on. Part of me thinks that this is due to their being lower-class workers. Those closer to the upper class, like me, generally enjoyed their work and took a playful attitude towards the show. Those from the independent escort sector, the lower class streetworker sector, and the women-only lesbian sector tended to be harsh and upset. Now, I don't want to say that I don't have rough days and tricks that I dislike. that happens a lot! But you know what, I love the work and I love having sex so I find ways to make pleasure fun for everyone. I don't complain. I rarely fake and I try to actually enjoy every partner that I am with. I find this to be a healthier approach to the work and I think I benefit from it. but, then again, I haven't been pounding the pavement as long as these girls have. Maybe they're burned out. maybe I am just lucky but then again I work to ensure that I have a positive time. That was another thing I had a problem with, beyond the man/trick/work hating. Many of these women describing having a lax work ethic. Even though I am a whore, I work hard and I have pride in my work. I don't get drunk or high while working, some girls referenced that, I don't do unsafe sex, and I don't engage in dangerous situations. These women tended to uphold the stereotypes of whores being ignorant, reckless, and man-hating. Now the whole show wasn't horrible and it is still worth seeing, for those of you folks in Antioch. Ducky was a wonderful comedian and really upbeat. her other personality, Knockers the clown, wasn't there but she was awesome as always. She's also a bit heavier than most workers, like me, but she has been featured in Penthouse recently and is *quite* sexy. Carol Leigh was her wonderful self, as always, and I enjoyed yelling like mad during her performance. When she called for sluts I screamed loud and proud and startled my neighbors, lol. I also liked Tralala, the stripper teacher, she was hot and should have had more airtime. Overall the show was a bit disappointing though because I wanted to see something more empowering. I find it kind of sad that lesbians hate sex work and workers so much, not to mention us bisexuals. I just want the hate to end and the respect to begin. Like I said, I think most of the workers that saw their work negatively were lesbians and/or lower class workers. They were also mostly escorts, which is a job that can be fun if you make it fun but can also be a horror if you don't make good rules for yourself. I would have appreciated seeing a greater diversity of employment, especially film workers because they would have added some class to the show. I told Carol my feelings, and I did get to see Jacobsen too, and she wants to meet with me today if it works out. I couldn't stay up late with her last night and wait so I told her that I would call. I don't know if it will work out, but I hope it does. I also hope that she doesn't see my criticism as an insult because i love her and her work! i just wish her co-workers were more positive about their experiences. Daphne |